November 11, 2013 Leave a comment
August 19, 2013 Leave a comment
Life is long. Slow down… Do the things that matter today. Let the rest go.
August 17, 2013 Leave a comment
The movie was so focused on portraying how fake and superficial the individuals who live in this upper-class, American West Coast culture are, that it failed to show their humanity entirely.
The mother’s character was the most poorly portrayed by Sophia Coppola. She failed to capture the intensity of the mother and the mother’s strange relationship with her daughters. The daughters really have a close connection with their mother, however weird, and actually believe in the “And So It Is” thing they say. Alex Nyers wasn’t lying when she said those quotes repeated by Emma Watson in the Vogue Interview; this girl truly believes what she’s saying. I think Emma Watson did an OK job acting considering the horrendous script she had to work with but unfortunately, I can’t get on her side. I don’t believe in the sisterhood between the two older girls in the movie… These girls are best friends and also fiercely competitive but none of that came through.
Perhaps I shouldn’t have expected the movie to focus so much on the 2 sisters but I’m disappointed that this story wasn’t told.
In order for me to feel and understand the pull of having nice things, wealth and fame, I needed to be seduced by the ringmaster of the group. I wasn’t, unfortunately. She was vapid and boring and I believe there’s more to the real person than that.
It’s easy to write these girls off as rich, entitled, materialistic little bitches but what about exploring the pull of celebrity culture? Fame and wealth and beauty entices everyone to an extent. When it’s so close that all you have to do is take a deep breath and push open a door to get it, what can ever limit you? I wanted to see these boundaries explored and real emotions about right, wrong and the ability to disregard common sense in search of adrenaline and wealth.
Instead the movie offers us all the material things but none of the acting to make it real.
I understand the challenge- how do you tell a story that everyone knows the ending to? Well, it’s not about the ending in that case, it’s about the relationships, the betrayal, the friendship and the reputation these individuals got in their circle of friends for stealing from celebrities. Alas, the trailer shows all the best parts of the movie. There’s also a car accident and little exploration of it’s consequences except for a laughed off “I was off the charts, they didn’t even know how I was driving.” Consequences may be a foreign thing to these kids, but I need the movie to explore why and how that is.
Skip this movie and watch “Pretty Wild” on Netflix. It’s the real thing and it’s better than the movie.
July 6, 2013 Leave a comment
I received some incredibly sad news yesterday morning that a friend of mine and fellow classmate, Gerald, was in a fatal car accident. I am heartbroken, in shock, and longing to reconnect with my classmates who also knew him and were friends with him.
This news sent me into a place of solitary meditation last evening. I spent time reflecting on Gerald’s life, lessons I’ve learned from him as well as my own life. Gerald was kind to everyone, he was funny, articulate, and most importantly, he had a way of making people feel important and appreciated. I once helped him brain storm career ideas and identified his strengths that he could leverage in a job interview. He thanked me again several months later. He told me how much I had helped him while he was in a career funk. He was my inspiration behind $4 Tuesday; he saw a movie every Tuesday while he was at OU- it was a priority for him to relax and have that time.
So in thinking about my life and his here are some things I realized:
- I often approach people with expectations of who I think they should be or who I think they are. I must learn to approach people with an open heart and know that each is on her own journey towards love and light.
- I need to spend quality time alone with myself. I mean this in the not-dating sense and also when I am physically alone. I need to do things that I love (for example, less internet browsing, more yoga or reading). I must learn to be at peace in my own presence.
- Competition is something I value, however, people are not obstacles to my success. The measure of success is how many people you lift up in the process.
I hope that this self exploration continues as I remember my wonderful friend and classmate. As I process his untimely death, may I seek to live life more fully.